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Buckitude… Bad F**K Attitude!

No Cake

Hi everyone! Hope you are having a marvelous weekend!!

I’ve been blogging since 2013, so at this point I think we are friends. Can I get personal with you? I’m about to get personal with you.

I saw a Michael Baisden video, where he asked women if they faked orgasms. It’s no surprise that many women said yes because they wanted it to end, they want to stroke the man’s ego, etc. Everyone knows that women talk, good girlfriends have very few secrets between them. We may not get into great detail because we want to respect the sanctity of the bedroom, but guys if you knock it out the box, the friends know, if you are lame, the friends know. It just is what it is, sorry.

So to my question. Should bad sex be a deal breaker? Do we put too much emphasis on sex in relationships? Do men feel pressured to be on their A game? Do women cause this pressure? My friend coined a new term “buckitud”, which means bad f**k attitude.

Sex is important and full of benefits, for all the reason we all know up to and including release. If you know someone who is tightly wound and on edge, they probably haven’t had any in a while, IJS. Let me ask you, if you owned a company and your employee was not up to par would you let that person go? Hell yes, they are not serving their purpose. I am NOT suggesting sex is the only purpose, but is it wrong to think along those same lines? I understand that it takes time to get to know each other’s bodies, likes and dislikes, and be comfortable with one another. Is it at least fair to say if the performance doesn’t improve that it becomes a deal breaker?

My friends and I had a discussion about this. Bad sex is definitely a frustrating experience. Fellas do you know all that a woman goes through to prep? The de-furring and smell good ritual alone is time consuming. We go through a lot to get right for you, to end up disappointed. Partners need to be on the same page with stamina and expectations. Ladies if you need a man too sample your cake and he doesn’t like sweets, that’s a freaking problem!!!! You can say, oohh I like him, it will get better. Uuhhhmm, what if it doesn’t? What if the sex is boring and lacks excitement? What if he has a problem maintaining an erection? What if he finishes before he starts :-|. It’s already an awkward situation, but do you bring it up later to discuss it?

We’re all adults and friends, so I will say I had an experience that was beyond terrible. We never saw each other again and it pretty much ended.  I know he wanted a redemption visit, but I decided it just wasn’t worth it; I didn’t like him enough. I have another friend who had such a buckitude she wanted to cheat! When you are so unsatisfied you want to sleep with another person, it is definitely a problem. I suppose if someone has enough good qualities maybe it is something you can get past. Read a book, watch a video, visit the adult store, heck I don’t know. Take a look at the videos they are quite interesting.

Let me know what you think. Have you had a terrible experience? Is good sex important to you? Are you willing to stick it out and work with your partner?

Feel free to share. You can post to the blog anonymously.


Life Can Be So Full Of Disappointments

Hi everyone, I hope you had a great weekend.

I had a pretty good weekend. I went out to dinner on Friday and Saturday, I love eating out. Later Saturday night, I celebrated with my favorite Bridezilla, Minyon… Happy birthday girlie!! I hung out with some of my stars – no 403s, lol. Got pressured into doing hookah and think I lost 6 minutes of my life and killed some brain cells. Thanx guys!! Sunday I had a fun filled day of bowling, playing games, and finished it off with some pizza. What more could a girl ask for?!

I know… I can ask to not get disappointed by folks, but that’s too much.

I’ve been thinking… They say that if you don’t expect anything, you won’t get disappointed. That’s a philosophy that I need to adopt and live by! I’m constantly being disappointed! I find myself thinking more about other people’s feeling than people think about mine. That is unacceptable and is going to come to an end!

I had a conversation with one of my girlfriends the other day about how men seem to think women are stupid. Is that really true? Do men really think they are so slick and that they are pulling something off? I know that I let some things go. Just because I don’t say anything doesn’t mean that I don’t think anything. Here is a prime example…

For several months this one guy who claimed to be interested in me would send me messages and photos. The issue was, he wasn’t sending them just to me and I knew this, but I never said anything. I just made a mental note and kept my eye on it. One day like six months later, I finally told him that when he sends me a message I can see everyone else that he sends the message to. His response was that he knew. Lying ass bastard. I hate when my intelligence is insulted. The next message that he sent, was just too me. I guess he was trying to conserve his text. Ugh there is nothing worse than a liar! Can’t stand cowards!! As my friend would say, he’s a frigg!!

Hopefully, I helped him out and none of the other girls he was sending the messages to has figured it out. I like to help where I can.

FYI, he’s not the one who disappointed me… That I’ll keep to myself.

On a side note… I was prepared to talk about something else today, but I figured that it wasn’t my business and I didn’t want to come across as catty, but what I will say… to the sad and pathetic woman who thinks that she is keeping such a great secret, WE KNOW… I want to be the first to say congrats on your upgrade from a man that used to beat you to a man who cheats on his wife with you. I hope that your mate, life partner, husband, or whoever is unfortunate enough to wind up with you doesn’t treat you with the same disregard and disrespect that your current boyfriend treats his wife! He must really think highly of you, you’re not the first and you won’t be the last

What have I taken from this!! Men are nothing but a disappointment!!


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