Dating Questions: What to do!?!
Hello friends, I hope you have been enjoying your week!!
I have to first share something that happened to my friend earlier this week at McDonalds. My friend went through the drive thru and ordered a soda with NO ICE. I forget what else she ordered, but that’s not important. She gets to the window and the manager hands her the drink and it has ice. So my friend politely tells the manager, I wanted it with no ice. The manager says no problem… Here comes the problem… The manager removes the cap from the soda and gets another cup. She places her hand over the opening of the cup and proceeds to strain the soda through her fingers into the next cup!!!!! My friend asks the manager what she is doing. The manager responds, you said no ice. ROTFLMAO!!!!
I thought that was too funny and disturbing not to share!
Today, I want to talk about dating. I haven’t actively dated in SIX years. I was with my ex for four and these last two years, well… I’ve been interested in a couple of people, but it quickly fizzled, like one date fizzled. So I have a few questions now that I’m back on the scene.
1. How many people do you date at a time? Do you tell the person you’re dating, that you’re dating other people? Do you ask if they are dating other people? I find this to be the most confusing. On the one hand, you can date who you want because there is no commitment. Then you naturally start to spend more time with one person and the others start to fade out of the picture. I guess…. but… what if the person you are dating isn’t dating anyone else? Wont it hurt their feelings to find out you’re dating other people? More importantly, will it hurt my feelings to find out HE IS dating other people? I’m kinda fragile! What if more than one of the people you are dating starts to develop feelings? I’m not that good at breaking hearts! Well unless you tick me off.
2. As a woman, when should you start to contribute towards dates? I’ve gone out on a couple dates with the Traveler and he’s paid for them all, should I at least offer? I’m going to offer. It’s only right to offer. Will that start a trend? Will he expect me to always pay? I asked a male acquaintance when a woman should start to pay for dates, he said with him, never. Good answer!!
3. When do you start talking about where “this” is going? I’m no spring chicken. I don’t have six or more months to waste to find out; hey I don’t want anything serious. I’m trying to be a go with the flow type of girl, but I like to swim, it gets you there faster. Sometimes if you just go with the flow and drift with the current, you wind up someplace you don’t want to be. Then you have to take time to find your way back. I don’t have time for that! I also don’t want to be that girl who goes on a few good dates and wants to have your baby. That’s awkward! Sigh, this is so complex.
4. When should you bring someone around your family or friends? My brothers, well one in particular, seem to think it’s the same day I say hello. I can’t really trust them though; I think they just wanna make jokes and pester me! I don’t think I can have just anybody come over. That’s a lot of pressure! Maybe if someone successfully makes it to the six month point, I’ll bring them around.
Those are my most pressing questions. Help a girl out!!