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Archive for the month “January, 2013”

Women Love Me… Well A Woman LMAO!

Happy Wednesday!! I hope everyone had a great day!

I had an interesting online dating experience yesterday… a woman liked my photo! At first I was completely annoyed; I thought I had my profile set up wrong. I should NOT be in her search results! Then after talking about it, I realized that she probably conducted a search as a man seeking a woman. One of my friends said that if it were her, she’d be flattered. I guess I could look at it like that… I’m so hot, I’ve got them coming at me from both directions! I’m sexy and I know it, lmao! I don’t know, I just really hope this does not skew my results :-(. I’m all for diversity, but men are complicated enough!

I found an interesting read on, Modern Day Matchmaker: A 10-Step Plan for Finding a Good Date Online by Paul Carrick Brunson . Let’s see how I’m doing…

1. Think beyond “dating sites” – Well… I have been smiling more, does that count? I had a man approach me in the mall and tell me that he thought I was pretty, but I’m so clueless, I thought he was just being friendly. After an awkward pause, he walked away and I went back to eating my cinnamon pretzel. It didn’t dawn on me what happened until I told a friend… oh well, better luck next time!

2. Don’t lie – I’m always honest, well I don’t have any photos in my glasses, and I technically don’t GO to the gym three times a week… I do think about it though…

3. Move offline quickly – I don’t ask men out, so if they don’t ask, we don’t meet. Oh and I’m not willing to drive too far. There is a man that I communicate with online who lives in Bradenton. He asked me yesterday if I have ever been to the area and I said no. He then asked me what I was doing this weekend. NOT driving to Bradenton!!!

4. Reopen your account every three months – I’ll try this! Newer profiles get more matches.

5. Always ask, “What did I learn?” – I shared this in last week’s blog, E-dating 101. I learned some pretty great things!

6. Approach people – I’m not good at this online. Honestly, once I narrow by status, children, and all the other categories my pickings are pretty slim. Then I psych myself out… if they liked me, they would’ve messaged me!! I’m going to work on that.

7. User names are important – I wont share my username, but I think it’s great!!

8. It’s all about your photo – I think the woman liking my photo speaks volumes… my photo must be pretty awesome lol!

9. Stop saying, “Only crazy people use dating sites” – I don’t believe that AT ALL. My sis-in-law’s friend married a man she met online, who is the friend of a friend, convoluted, but it made me feel better.

10. Talk to Paul – the author of the article. I would LOVE to!

So, I think I’m on point!! Those of you dating online, how are you doing?

My date filled weekend!

Happy Monday! I hope everyone had a great weekend. I did! I’ll get to that in a sec!

Gym crush update!!! Failure to launch. Gym crush has not been in the gym :-(, maybe he’s already fell of his new year’s resolution. I really can’t talk. I’ve only been to the gym once this year AND it was only to scope out a guy! Sad, I know. Better luck in February! Who needs the gym anyway? My doctor only recommended 30 minutes of cardio a day. So technically, the walk to and from my car to my job is 10 minutes easy. Then my walk to and from the cafeteria is another 10 and I go to the cafeteria twice a day, sometimes three! When you break it down; I’m actually on point lmao. Just kidding, I’m supposed to be training for a 1/2 marathon. So three days a week is my plan. Wish me luck with that :-|. Ohh back to gym crush. An extension has been issued. Let’s give her until Friday.

On another note. I met three more men online; only one of the three I decided to meet offline. To clarify when I say “met” that means I’ve at least exchanged numbers. There’s The Traveler, The Texter, and Check In. Check In is weird, he’ll send me a text saying, “On my way to lunch” “I’m about to start studying.” Ok, why are you telling me? Did you imagine that you received a text from me? Hallucinations are not a good sign!  The Texter will not pick up the phone, even after I brought it to his attention that we’ve never spoken! Can’t take him too seriously. The Traveler is the man I met. We actually went out TWICE this weekend! He seems very nice, a gentleman, attractive, but… he doesn’t want kids! He enjoys his freedom. Sigh! Traveler, kids are mobile, they can go too!!! Although I will admit I hate traveling with my 3 year old nephew, but that’s different!! I might use old school tactics that my grandma used, not to put her blast, but you DO NOT show out and embarrass my grandma. Sure don’t!! My nephew is a good boy though, all of my nieces and nephews are. Anyway, I told him that I want kids, at least one, and the only way I won’t have kids is if I literally can’t.  That means, my eggs and my sister’s eggs lol. I mean business!

I had a really good time with The Traveler, however, I’m inclined to believe a man over a certain age who says he doesn’t want kids. So, I don’t know… We’ll see…

Love Resume. It May Be Time To Update Yours!

I recently listened to a motivational message by Shanel Cooper-Sykes.  One of the topics of discussion was “love resumes”. We are looking for Mr. or Ms. Right, but don’t consider whether WE are Mr. or Ms. Right. We could very well be Mr. or Ms. Alright. No one wants to settle for alright! Are you a man 100lbs over weight, but can’t even smile at a woman who is over a size 5? Have you been struggling through a two year college for 10 years, yet insist on only dating a doctor or lawyer? If that’s you, get it together! Now! We really need to take a good look at ourselves. Who am I? What do I have to offer? What am I bringing to the table?

Try making a list. If the top three things on your list are:

I’m very attractive
Amazing in bed
I drive a Benz

You really need to reevaluate your list. IJS. What do you want to portray to the one you’re looking for? What’s the image you want to give off? If it’s just the three things I mentioned, in 10 years when your looks start to fade, you need Viagra, and drive a minivan, your relationship might end up in trouble.

I wrote one. For those who know me, know I’m pretty great… toot toot lol. For those who don’t here goes in no particular or:

Intelligent                                                                Independent
Masters Degree                                                      Financially Responsible/Stable
Family Oriented                                                    Compassionate
Beautiful                                                                   Caring
No Children/Never Married                            Loving
Hard Worker                                                           Honest
Home Owner                                                           Dependable
Talented                                                                    Funny

So everyone write a love resume. You may find… Hey, I guess I’m not the next best thing since sliced bread or Hey, I’m pretty excellent, the world aint ready for me!

E-Dating 101: 5 Hillarious Lessons I Have Learned

Some people think online dating is taboo and for the desperate. Are there desperate people online? Yes. Are there desperate people offline? Yes. We’ve all met that old man in the club with the white suite, dusty hat, and 1970s pick up lines. How do you respond? I’m sorry sir, I thought you were my father’s friend lmao!! To the person reading my blog RIGHT NOW, who has an online dating profile and is too embarrassed to admit it.  Are you desperate? Maybe. I don’t know you, so I can’t say :grin:. No, seriously, you’re not, your just trying a different venue to meet people. I say all of that to say, online dating is popular and made up of a diverse population. Paul Brunson wrote an article that states, one out of every five marriages start online and one out of every six relationships start online.

Now I will admit my online dating experience has been interesting to say the least. These are the top five things I have learned about online dating.

  1. Wit yo sexy ass is synonymous with… hello, you are quite attractive…
  2. It’s ok for men to pose topless, regardless to if they are washboard or potbellied…
  3. It’s acceptable to use outdated photos, at least six years or more, and say, “yeah that’s me” – I hate that!!
  4. No one actually READS the profile, hence why people put old pictures of when they looked their best. Could be worse. Could be a Catfish situation!
  5. Grammar and its general principles are not considered when writing the profile that no one reads!! It’s a’ight to spel lik dis, its all gud!

I’ve actually met a few people from online, offline. Three people, I’ll call them… the emotional poet, the friend closet shopper, and the guy my brothers have jerkily nicknamed LM. I will not share what LM means, I can’t perpetuate the nonsense. Gotta love older brothers, sigh!! Nothing has come of these, but I’m open and intend to blog about my future experiences.

One tip for the ladies. This is something that I struggled with. No matter how gorgeous you are or think you are, no matter how far out of the “average” man’s league you believe yourself to be, you will get flirts and messages from the old guys with four teeth. Don’t allow that to hurt yourself esteem lmao!!

So tell me, what are you online experiences? I know you have some!! Any love matches out there? Leave a comment and let us know.


Gym Crush

My friend, whom I call Frack, has a gym crush!!!

So there is a debate on whether women should approach men or be the first to initiate… Men are hunters, I get it!! Men like the chase, I get it! A woman approaching a man may be too forward, I get it! On the flip, I think a woman approaching a man should be flattering and sexy as hell, but what do I know, I’m not a man!!! Hey, we’re not in the 1800’s, women should be able to make the first move. Right? Am I right? I think I’m right. I went a singles retreat and the speaker said…A woman should not approach a man, if a man is interested in you, he will approach you. Ok ladies, keep waiting and let me know how that works out for you. One, the guy you lust may be oblivious to the fact that you’re interested (no offense, but men are kinda slow like that) and two if a man can’t handle being approached by a woman then he probably isn’t the one anyway. He has deeper issues and you don’t need that stress!

Back to Frack. So what to do?!?! I gave her the best advice I could. Just say hi and flash those pearlies, he will know what to do next. Hi will open up the door and let him know, hey I notice you. Of course she didn’t follow my A++ advice and now 3 weeks later, she was issued an aggressive challenge. Have his name in addition to his number, email, or Facebook In FIVE days!!! Her plan of attack… Be where he is, and whatever area of the body he’s working on, that’s what area she’s working on… ask him something  about what he is doing, “hey is that good for upper body? I’ve been trying to blah blah blah”, do her own thing for awhile because no one likes a nuisance… Now… if she leaves first, as she passes him on her way out she thanks him for the tips and have a little idle chit chat!!! If he leaves first, hopefully he will come over to find out if his workout tips were useful. I’m excited to see how this pans out! I will keep you posted. She has FIVE days.

Any thoughts on female pursuers? Should women just sit back or speak up to get the man they want?


Hello Everyone!!

Welcome to PuzzlePeace: Piecing It Together. These past two years have been an emotional journey for me…  A nearly four year relationship with the man I thought was the ONE ended. We looked at rings, we looked at venues, and I knew we were getting married… NOPE!! Devastating, I know, but hey, it happens. I’ve moved on, but I’m still waiting on my family to heal. Family, I promise there will be love and salad again lmao!! I started dating again, both offline and online, and let’s just say it’s been an interesting experience. I started training for a 1/2 marathon and the Spartan race, although I’m not sure how I feel about the Spartan race yet. I have also maintained and developed some really great friendships over the course of these years. I really don’t know how I would’ve made it through without them. Now, I’m ready for 2013 and all that is has for me. I’m still dating online, still training for the race, and just taking it all in. I’m trying to find my peace and put things together.  I’m striving to be a better and happier me!! Maybe I will find love this year, but I will definitely find peace within. I hope you enjoy my blog and feel free to comment.



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